What Do You See When You Look in the Mirror?
I used to look at my reflection and see the kind of man I didn’t want to be — tired, distracted, frustrated, reactive.
But I also saw flashes of potential. A man trying. A man who wanted to do better.
That mirror doesn’t lie. It shows you who you are, but it also shows who you’re becoming. And as I kept showing up, I realized something: I didn’t just want to raise my kids well — I wanted to become the dad I admired.
What Did I Miss From My Own Dad?
Not everyone grew up with a strong father figure. I didn’t. Or if you did, maybe he was there — but emotionally absent. No hugs. No praise. No guidance.
For years, I didn’t even realize the gap. But when I became a dad, the hole became obvious.
That’s when the journey started. Not just to be better than my own dad — but to become a man my kids could look at and be proud of.
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What Kind of Dad Do I Want My Kids to See?
I want them to see a man who:
- Shows up — even when tired
- Listens without always fixing
- Protects without control
- Leads without ego
- Apologizes when he’s wrong
- Laughs often
- Loves without condition
That’s not a checklist I’ve nailed. It’s a standard I aim for every day. I fail. But I also get back up. That’s the difference.
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How Do I Handle the Guilt of Getting It Wrong?
That’s one of the toughest parts.
I’ve snapped when I should’ve stayed calm. I’ve zoned out when I should’ve leaned in. I’ve let stress from work bleed into bedtime routines. And every time, I felt the weight.
But here’s what I’ve learned — guilt doesn’t make you a bad dad. Staying stuck in it does.
I started owning my mistakes, apologizing directly, and turning the moment into something they could learn from too.
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What Daily Habits Are Shaping the Dad in the Mirror?
Change doesn’t come from one big decision. It comes from daily habits that stack into the man you want to be.
Here’s what’s been working for me:
- Morning reflection – 5 quiet minutes to ask: What kind of dad am I showing up as today?
- Phone away at dinner – Not just off. Away.
- Hugs, every day – No age limit.
- One-on-one time – Even if it’s just 10 minutes.
- Positive words – Speak out what you see in your kids. Let them hear your belief in them.
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How Do I Stay Grounded When I Feel Like I’m Failing?
Honestly? I remind myself I’m not doing this alone.
There are other men — maybe just like you — trying to figure it out, heal old wounds, and break cycles. We may not have had a blueprint, but that doesn’t mean we can’t build something better now.
You’re not weak for feeling overwhelmed. You’re strong for caring enough to change.
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They say that the path to becoming the person we want to be starts with a vision. For me, that vision takes shape every time I stand before the mirror and imagine the kind of dad I aspire to become. In that reflective moment, I see a figure that holds a special place in my heart – Bluey’s dad. Through his unwavering support, guidance, and love, he embodies the essence of the father I dream of becoming. In this article, we’ll delve into the powerful practice of visualizing the dad I want to be, drawing inspiration from the admirable qualities of Bluey’s dad.
The Mirror of Imagination:
Seeing Beyond the Reflection: The mirror becomes a canvas of possibility as I stand before it, gazing at my reflection while envisioning the dad I aim to be. Bluey’s dad serves as a guiding light, a reminder of the qualities and actions that matter most.
The Spirit of Bluey’s Dad: Bluey’s dad radiates a sense of warmth, patience, and understanding that resonates with me. He effortlessly balances work, play, and quality time, creating a harmonious and loving environment for his family.
Embracing the Qualities:
Patience and Presence: As I visualize the dad I want to become, patience stands out as a key quality. Bluey’s dad models the art of listening and being present, two attributes that foster strong connections with his children.
Imaginative Playfulness: Bluey’s dad seamlessly engages in imaginative play, effortlessly transforming everyday moments into cherished memories. Through play, he fosters creativity and a sense of adventure, traits I’m eager to nurture in my own parenting journey.
Balancing Work and Family:
Work-Life Harmony: Bluey’s dad demonstrates an ability to balance his professional commitments while prioritizing quality time with his family. This balance is a testament to his dedication and devotion to both aspects of his life.
Leading with Empathy:
Understanding and Empathy: The empathy that Bluey’s dad exudes is inspiring. He listens, validates emotions, and provides a safe space for his children to express themselves. This empathetic approach fosters open communication and trust.
Taking Steps Forward:
Intentional Growth: Every time I visualize the dad I want to become, I’m reminded that growth is intentional. I commit to embodying the qualities I admire in Bluey’s dad – the patience, presence, playfulness, and empathy that shape meaningful relationships.
A Vision to Guide the Way:
The mirror becomes more than just glass; it transforms into a window of possibility. As I see the reflection of the dad I aspire to be, guided by the embodiment of Bluey’s dad, I’m reminded that the journey of fatherhood is a continuous evolution. With each interaction, I have the chance to embody the qualities that shape the foundation of the relationship I share with my children. So, as I stand before the mirror, I continue to visualize the dad I’m becoming – a dad who, just like Bluey’s dad, leaves an indelible mark of love, understanding, and unwavering support in the hearts of his children.
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